Today’s assignment and twist are all about building a writing habit, which entails forcing yourself to write even when you can’t think of anything to write, and forgetting about such nonsense as spelling, grammar, or even making any sense (after all, those things can always be fixed later). The point is to get pen to paper and just get the words down, because you never know what awesome things you might write when you commit yourself.
For the assignment I’m actually scribbling all this out freehand, but for the sake of the blog I will fix such things as spelling and grammar as I’m typing it out. So without further ado, today’s assignment is:
Let’s get one thing straight right off the bat. I love music – like, really love music – but there aren’t a lot of songs that I would consider to be “important” to me. I just love music in general. So a couple of these songs might seem like I’m stretching a little, but that’s okay.
“Me and You” by Kenny Chesney
It might not sound like a difficult task, but when I was planning my wedding one of the hardest choices for me was to decide what our first dance song would be. I must have listened to a thousand songs and every one felt chintzy or dumb or just didn’t fit. After what felt like forever I finally happened to stumble across this song – one I’d never heard before – and something clicked. I knew it was the perfect song to dance to with my new husband. My favorite lyric? “Just a precious few ever make it last, get lucky as me and you.”
“Now That I See You” from Disney’s “Tangled”
What? A Disney song is one of my “most important” songs? Yes, and I’ll explain. First, I’ve never stopped watching Disney movies because screw that, I love Disney movies. Second, when my daughter was an infant I happened to see Tangled. I thought the love song of the movie was very pretty, and I began humming it to my daughter when I was trying to get her to sleep. Eventually I learned the words and would actually sing it to her. Now it’s three years later, my daughter has actually seen Tangled herself, and now whenever I’m plucking at my guitar this is one of the songs she wants me to play and sing for her (she calls it ‘Rapunzel’s Song’).
The Final Fantasy 3/6 Theme
Okay, first a Disney song and now a video game song? I must be a musical philistine, right? Wrong, you close-minded fool. For one thing, quite a lot of video game music (especially RPG stuff) is orchestral, so my choice is automatically way more classy than, say, a pop song. Second, this song choice is all about the nostalgia and fond memories of my childhood. I grew up with video games, with the Final Fantasy series being one of my all-time favorites. Final Fantasy 3 (US version) was the first of the series that I’d ever played. To this day listening to that theme song brings me back to days spent with my best friend, the two of us piled in front of a Super Nintendo and a 13″ television. We thought the game was the greatest thing ever back then, and I still do to this day.
Oh, and if anyone is interested, I wrote for 17 minutes. ^_~
When we are children there are literally a million ways to strike up a friendship, from asking to borrow a crayon to walking up and poking another kid you’ve never met in the back of the head. Kids are simple that way. Adults are trickier because we rely mostly on polite conversation to suss out some information on each other. We ask common questions that everyone can answer with a relative amount of ease, and one of those questions is inevitably, “What do you do for a living?”
Now, since I have a day job that is completely unrelated to writing, I’ve rarely had to experience the frustration that follows as one grits their teeth, struggles to keep their eye from twitching, and grudgingly admits, “I’m a writer.” I have, however, heard many horror stories and had a few minor experiences myself as a result of people actually catching me in the midst of writing. “Horror stories?” you may ask. Yes, horror stories. Because, the thing is, for reasons I’ll never quite understand, when people discover a writer they immediately plunge into a torrent of questions, many of which are extremely rude and annoying. It’s a strange thing, as though the profession of “writer” is automatically up for intense scrutiny.
Most writers will clench their jaw and try their best to answer the onslaught of questions with a smile plastered on their face, even though on the inside they’re screaming. So on behalf of my fellow writers, I present to the rest of you a list of questions to avoid and why we hate it when you ask them.
“You’re a writer? So, you don’t work then?” or “Oh, that’s cool, but what’s your real job?”
I’ll never understand this myself, but unless you’re an extremely well-known author like Stephen King, or you work as a screenwriter for a popular TV show, people don’t seem to consider writing to be a “real” job. Correct me if I’m wrong, fellow artists, but I feel like writing is the only one of the arts to enjoy this stigma. There’s just something about writing in particular that makes people imagine that it can be a hobby, but not a career.
So let me clear things up: writing is as much a job as anything else. It entails a lot of hard work (more on that later), and if you want to be good at it you have to spend a boatload of time on training, research, practice, keeping up with business trends, networking with peers and important possible business contacts, and, oh yeah…the actual writing.
Just because something sounds fun and easy doesn’t mean that it is, and just because what someone chooses to do with their life isn’t a 9-to-5 with a regular bi-weekly paycheck and benefits doesn’t mean that it isn’t a job.
“What’s your story about?”
Non-writers, I know you think this question shows polite interest, but the question itself is an ignorant over-simplification. This question implies that an intricately woven tapestry of characters, setting, and plot line – something that may have taken months or years to construct – can be easily explained in a couple of sentences. But trust me, non-writers, it is no easier to give a brief description of what we’re writing than it is for a mathematician to explain calculus to someone who has never done it before. It makes us sweat, because we’re caught between making our story sound stupid (“Uh…um…it’s about zombies.”) or putting you in the position of listening to the entire life story of the novel so that you understand what it’s truly about.
If you’re honestly curious about what the writer is writing, a better question would be, “What kind of genres do you write in?” or “Are you working on anything special right now?” If the writer wants to talk about their current work-in-progress, questions like these will pave the way and let them know that you’re actually interested, not just being facetious.
“Have you made any money writing?” or “How much do you make writing?”
For the life of me I’ll never get why people think that this is an okay road to go down. With pretty much any other profession on the planet it is considered extremely rude to ask someone how much money they make (unless you’re already good friends and are comfortable with that kind of sharing), and yet people are constantly asking this of writers. It not only comes off as rude and nosy, but it immediately gives off the impression of disbelief in the writer’s ability to earn a living, which is much, much more than rude.
Do everyone involved a favor, non-writers, and just never bring money up. It’s none of your business and it can come to no good.
“Can I read your book before you publish it?”
No. No, no, no, no, no. There are so many things wrong with this request, but I’ll go with the one that everyone (hopefully) should be able to understand: something for nothing. Would you ask an architect to design a building for free? Would you ask a doctor to do surgery for free? Would you ask an electrician to wire a house for free? The answer in every case is a resounding NO, because it is ridiculous to ask someone to use their time, energy, education, and experience to do something for you for free. It is no different to ask a writer to let you read something (for free!) that you know damn well they’re trying to earn a living with. If you’re really that interested to read, go out and buy the damn book.
“Do you really expect to make a living as a writer?”
Here’s the thing…you can take any highly successful profession on the planet and there will be people who failed miserably at it. Young people with excellent GPAs will flunk out of med school because they can’t handle the pressure. Incredibly intelligent lawyers may fall apart on the stands because they’re no good at public speaking. Genius engineers may make a tiny mistake in their calculations that end up costing companies millions.
I get that the artistic fields (art, writing, music, acting…) are extremely difficult to break into and that the idea of the “starving artist” is a thing for a reason. But that does not give you the right to talk down to a writer because you think their ambitions are too high. Unless you are this particular writer’s parent and you’ve got them bumming in your house rent-and-bill-free, it is absolutely none of your business how they choose to spend their time and whether or not they’re going to be able to survive as a writer.
“Do you really think that self-publishing is the way to go?” or “But you’re not really a real author until you’ve been properly published, right?”
First of all, non-writers, I’m willing to bet that the majority of you don’t know much more about publishing than it’s how books are printed. Therefore, I forgive you for not realizing that there have been enormous shifts in the publishing paradigm in recent years. I forgive you for not knowing that trying to get traditionally published these days is like trying to convince the judges at a dog show to let you enter your cat in the competition. I forgive you for not being privy to the fact that traditional publishing can take so long that your book’s topic may no longer be marketable by the time you’ve gotten it in print. I’ll even forgive you for not being aware that many, many very successful writers have been self-publishing in recent years as trends shift and they realize that self-publishing allows them the ability and freedom to control more of the creative process, distribution, and marketing than ever before.
What I will not forgive you for is asking questions like these when you know damn well that you have no idea what you’re talking about. Do your research first, and then maybe we’ll be willing to have a nice, sit-down conversation about the virtues of each method of publishing.
I could keep going, but those non-writers who are reading this right now are probably already frowning at their screen and coming up with counter-arguments for why I shouldn’t be so uptight and just be happy that they’re interested enough to ask questions in the first place. So with that I conclude my list of super-frustrating inquiries and open up the floor to my fellow writers. How about it, guys and gals? What questions do you just hate to be asked as a writer?
Unlike the previous post, I can actually answer this one because it’s my “dream” launch party and thus does not have to make sense if I’m totally off on what a launch party is supposed to be like.
Obviously my family and friends would be there, especially my daughter because I love any excuse to show off how adorable she is. 🙂 There would be lots to drink, and even more to eat – I would want tons of treats, finger foods, sweets, everything you’ve got! There would definitely be some excellent music (stick to stuff that was produced before the turn of the millennium…I don’t care how old and un-hip that makes me sound), and I would strongly encourage dancing.
Basically what I’m describing here is a Cape Breton wedding reception, but hey…a party! 😀
People who find themselves following the arts (writing, music, acting, art, etc.) regularly find themselves at the end of the snide comment, “Don’t quit your day job.” Sometimes the comment is said as an insult, with the commenter implying that we’re no good at the art form we’ve chosen, so we’d better keep flinging burgers (or whatever we do). Other times, the comment is meant as a warning, as in, “It’s very hard to become an actor, so don’t put all your eggs in one basket.”
All “artists” should have something to fall back on in case they fail. Some are even able to establish a whole career in something less important to them first. But sometimes the universe is just out to get you.
Without going too deep into details, I’ve been out of my “day job” now since October. My husband, who worked at the same company as me, has also been out of work. It’s a pretty stressful time for us, especially as recent events have made us fairly confident that we will not be getting rehired.
The thing is, on the one hand this is an excellent time to work on my “art”, to try to finish my book, edit it, publish it. On the other hand, how can you concentrate on “art” during such a time in your life? How can you put all your time and effort into something that, statistically speaking, will never make you enough money to live on? Face it, chances are that I’ll never become a well-selling author. It’s not lack of confidence, it’s just stats. There are thousands of people like me out there, maybe hundreds of thousands, and we can’t all become famous authors. What are the chances that I’ll be the one to become wildly popular, right at the time in my life when I desperately need it to happen?
I guess what I’m trying to get at is…I only wrote about 1500 words in the entire last week. I still want to do the challenge, I really do. But it’s ridiculously difficult to have confidence in myself right now when the smart thing to do would be to do whatever it takes to get a new “day job”.
Make a playlist to someone, and explain why you chose all the songs. (Just post the titles and artists and letter)
Back in Black – ACDC
Rock of Ages – Def Leppard
Hotel California – The Eagles
Paradise City – Guns N’ Roses
To my pretty little baby girl. These are just a couple of examples of songs that you’ve happily listened to and even fallen asleep to while cranky. Here’s hoping that you continue to have an appreciation for good music as you grow older! 😀
A band or artist that has gotten you through some tough ass days.
Anyone who knows me knows that I love music. I spent a good bit of my childhood playing piano and guitar, I can hardly stand to listen to a song that I know the lyrics to without singing along, and I sing to my daughter every night while she has her before-bed bottle of milk. I have very eclectic tastes that range from country to heavy metal, from pop to rap. I’ve been known to listen to Willie Nelson, AC-DC, Taylor Swift, Eminem, Garth Brooks, Black Sabbath, Green Day, The Killers, and any number of other bands and artists who completely clash so far as genre and style are concerned. I even like a Britney Spears song or two.
What I’m saying is that I like the song for the song, not for the genre, the singer, or the popularity of it. I won’t shy away from a Justin Beiber song if it’s a good song just because so many people make fun of the kid, no more than I would listen to a Beatles song that I don’t like just because they’re so popular even today. In fact, a very large percentage of the time (much to the chagrin of my husband) I have no idea who the artist responsible for the song I’m belting out even is. I know every word of the lyrics, but I’ll be damned if I have any idea whose singing it or whether the song is ten months or ten years old. I just don’t care. If it’s a good song and it makes me happy, then its a good song and it makes me happy. Case closed.
So basically, what I’m getting at here, is that there is no one band or artist who has “gotten me through some tough-ass days”. Music has gotten me through some tough-ass days, but I can’t logically attribute that to one particular person. So thank you, instead, to everyone who creates music. Even if your songs aren’t my particular cup of tea, they are for someone, and that’s what matters.