A while back my cousin-in-law shared a nice article on Facebook. In it a mother listed 100 things that she wants to teach her daughter as she grows. I thought it was really cute and it got me thinking about things that I want to teach my own daughter. So I thought about it for a while and came up with these 100 lessons, tips, and ideals that I hope to impart.
As a child, try to be patient with other children who are mean and annoying. Some parents don’t discipline properly and some kids are just brats, and there’s nothing you can do about it.
As you grow older, don’t put up with bullies. Stand up for yourself.
No, seriously, stand up for yourself. Use your words first, but if it comes down to physical action being the only way to stop someone from harassing you, mommy will totally back you up.
Don’t spend all your time glued to technology.
Ride a bike.
It’s okay to like “boy” stuff like superheroes and sports.
It’s just as okay to like “girl” stuff like princesses and makeup.
Don’t like people tell you what to like, and if people make assumptions about you based on what you like, that’s their issue, not yours.
Be patient, even when other people are making you so angry that you could scream. Flipping out rarely makes any situation better.
Learn to recognize the situations where flipping out actually will make things better.
Establish your own faith system – even if it differs from mommy and daddy’s – and don’t put up with people telling you that your beliefs are wrong. Your religious faith – or lack thereof – is no one’s business but your own.
Avoid pop. At all costs. It’s worthless to your body and once you start drinking it it’s very hard to stop.
Respect your teachers, but don’t automatically take everything they say as gospel.
Everyone makes mistakes.
EVERYONE makes mistakes, even the people who you might believe know everything.
Think critically, and if something doesn’t feel right, do your own research.
Find someone who makes you laugh, even when you’re sad.
Don’t be afraid to get a little dirty.
Don’t let other people define you.
Understand that even grown adults can act like childish brats.
Take care of your body. It’s much easier to maintain good health than to try and get it back once it’s gone.
Try to understand both men and women – their thought processes and idiosyncrasies – and take neither too seriously.
Know that a career is not a life sentence. If you stop enjoying what you do it’s okay to make the move to change.
Know that as much as you may think otherwise, most teenagers have no idea what they want to do with their lives, and don’t take that personally; neither do most grown adults.
If you truly, truly want something, be willing to fight for it.
Understand that heartbreak feels like the end of the world, but it will always pass eventually.
Always try to stay positive and keep smiling.
But know that it’s okay to be sad sometimes.
And if you feel REALLY sad, tell someone. Please.
It doesn’t matter who they are or what their story is; if someone doesn’t respect you, they don’t deserve your respect.
Never let a man try to control you just because you’re a woman.
Never try to control a man just because he’s a man.
Don’t deny yourself little treats. Little treats can make a big difference sometimes.
To hell with fashion. Dress the way that makes you happy and comfortable.
Not everyone you meet will like you; don’t worry about it.
You won’t like everyone you meet, and that’s okay too.
Love who you want, and love with all your heart.
Be passionate about something, even if it’s just a hobby.
Know that there is not one set formula for how to live your life.
Family are the people who love you and take care of you, not necessarily the people you share blood with.
Remember that family (of the kind described above) are very important, and you’ll miss them when they’re gone.
But know that just because someone is related to you doesn’t mean that you have to keep them in your life; ditch people who are abusive to you, no matter who they are.
Read. Even if it’s just the news or magazines.
Learn to spell. Please. PLEASE.
Don’t put too much time and effort into being “unique”. Everyone is unique, so just be you and be happy with that.
Have an open-mind.
Have a curious mind.
Always find time to do the things you love.
Always find time to be with the people you love.
Feel free to enjoy the entertainment of the day, but give the entertainment of the past a fair trial too.
Don’t put up with anyone patronizing you just because you’re a woman.
Don’t patronize a guy just because he’s a man.
Learn to swim.
Learn to throw a punch.
Try to never use your knowledge of how to throw a punch.
Learn to love the parts of your body that you can’t change.
Be willing to work hard to change the parts of your body that you can change (if you truly want to change them).
Never change who you are to make someone love you.
Seriously, if they don’t love you for who you are, they don’t deserve you.
Learn how to fix things for yourself. It’ll save you a lot of money in the long run.
Allow time for day-dreaming.
Grow older and learn responsibility, but always stay young at heart.
Don’t feel like you have to make life decisions in the order society tells you to.
Do things that scare the hell out of you.
Do things that relax you.
Never settle for a job that makes you totally miserable.
Learn time management skills.
Understand that sometimes friends grow apart. It’s sad, but it’s not a reflection on you as a person.
If it would embarrass you if mommy and daddy saw it, don’t post it on the Internet.
I’m dead serious. No matter what anyone tells you, nothing on the Internet is 100% private.
Don’t feel like you have to go to college. Lots of excellent careers don’t require college.
Keep watching cartoons for as long as they continue to make you smile.
Own at least one outfit that is so comfy you could wear it for the rest of your life.
Don’t take yourself too seriously.
If something doesn’t feel right, go see a doctor.
If the doctor’s diagnosis doesn’t feel right, go see another doctor.
Learn how to cook.
Like, with real ingredients, not frozen stuff.
First lesson of finances: don’t spend more than you earn.
Learn the difference between “wants” and “needs”.
Bake from scratch.
Share what you bake.
Try to be nice to everyone, even if you don’t particularly like them.
Understand that not everyone who acts nice to your face is your friend.
Learn an instrument, even if you never play for anyone but yourself.
Acting like you’re the grand authority on a subject will almost always end in making yourself look like a fool.
NEVER stop learning.
Watch movies that are so good they give you chills and goosebumps.
Watch movies that are so bad they make you cry with laughter.
Don’t watch life through a camera lens; most things are better experienced fully rather than looked back at afterwards.
Be strong, even when you feel like you’re weak.
Try to remember that the only people whose opinions of you matter are the people whose opinions matter to you.
Always know that you can come to mommy and daddy with your problems. Even if we don’t understand, we will try our very hardest to help because we love you more than anything and always will.